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Introduction [Jul. 17th, 2011|10:14 am]
Nursing past 12 months

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[reservoirofwant]
Hello! Nice to meet like-minded mamas, even if it is on the internet.

1. Child info: Alex, 22 months
2. Parent(s) info: Sandra, 26
3. A little about your nursing relationship: Despite being born by c-section (a far cry from the homebirth I had planned) for breech presentation, we have had no problems with nursing whatsoever. Al latched on within a half hour of being born without a hitch. I stayed home with him until he was 11 weeks, when I returned to work. The only problems I have had with nursing were related to an unsupportive work environment. Despite having a lactation room for mothers, I had to deal with irritating coworkers who seemed to think I was given special treatment for all my "breaks." I was never the best pumper and toward the end I really had a difficult time in pumping enough milk (I also think my husband was overfeeding, but that is neither here nor there). Thanks to MilkShare I was able to supplement for a while until I could get enough of a stash. Thankfully I was able to quit my miserable job when Al was seven months old, and could put the pump away. Since then--no problems. Except for that little bit where he chomped down on my nipple and refused to let go...
Like any new breastfeeding mom, it was tough the first couple of months. For the first six months of his life I swear I never left the couch, he was always latched on.
I've never been shy about nursing him in public, even though I did get a few stares (although my son is biracial, and I sometimes wondered if I was getting the stink eye because I had the audacity to feed my son as nature intended, or because I'm a white woman with a brown child). 
Nobody in my family ever breastfed. My sisters would get a look of disgust when I nursed, but I'm hoping that seeing their big sister nurse will help normalize it for them (which is insane, there is nothing normal about shoving a bottle of crap from a can in a baby's mouth, but I digress). I'm one of the first in my circle of friends (a circle of friends that has changed inevitably because I had a child) to have a kid and a lot of my friends, while supportive, were put off by it, and now they ask if I'm STILL nursing, when I'll wean, etc.
My husband has been supportive for the most part but is now pressuring me to wean, which is annoying--"You're going to stop at two, right?" etc. He was also a pain in my you-know-what at first. He is a nurse who works with a bunch of women and when he'd go into work at night they'd ask how I was doing and he would tell them I was up all night nursing...he would come home from work to tell me that it was "okay if I gave him a bottle before bed to help him sleep," etc. But he's a reasonable man, after I gave him some literature about that he shut up. He was a pain again when I went back to work for a while, with overfeeding Alex, but when I quit my job it was no longer an issue. 
He now makes comments about wanting my breasts back but I just ignore him. They're my breasts, dude. My body.
4. Things I like about nursing my toddler: The closeness. He's so kinetic and into everything and active, it's sweet that he still crawls up and cuddles with me. And when he walks up and says, "Some milk," or "Want some milk," I think it's the most adorable thing ever.
5. Things I would change or could do without: I have a mole on my chest that he loves to pick. It drives me nuts! He also enjoys tugging on my hair. 
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From: janisfan
2011-07-17 02:21 pm (UTC)
Welcome!

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[User Picture]From: reservoirofwant
2011-07-17 02:26 pm (UTC)
thank you!
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[User Picture]From: sharya
2011-07-17 02:32 pm (UTC)
Nice to meet you :)
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[User Picture]From: goldoyster
2011-07-17 04:21 pm (UTC)
Wow, I could gave written a lot of this! I'm light brown and my children are white (I've been asked if I was their mother...) my son also was a planned homeburth turned c-section (but he was diagonal, not breech, and although my 3 yr old was born via perfect homebirth, I'm in the minority for preferring the c-section.)

My 8 month old tugs on my hair like crazy :( it's either that or tearing away at my clavicle. I really need to get a nursing necklace but not sure he'd go for it anyway.

Lastly, my husband also talks about wanting my breasts back, ugh! I know dome people can switch mentalities but I can't. Just last night I had to remind him, "that's oliver's food!" haha. But seriously. Yeah.

Welcome :)
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[User Picture]From: reservoirofwant
2011-07-17 04:48 pm (UTC)
I know what you mean! I recognize that breasts can be two things at once but whenever my husband touches them I get grossed out.
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[User Picture]From: dreamkate1
2011-07-17 06:02 pm (UTC)
I tell my husband, when he says he wants my breasts back..."uh hun, they were never yours. Despite who's using them, they are always MINE!"
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[User Picture]From: downwardlashes
2011-07-18 07:44 pm (UTC)
I had two moles on my breasts that I had removed solely because my toddler picked at them all the time. It really does drive you crazy!
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