|A weaning-esque question...
||[Dec. 3rd, 2011|06:04 pm]
Nursing past 12 months
Just to be clear, my nurslings will be 3 in January. I suppose I am weaning them, in that we have a nursing rule: Milk is for jammy time. This means that at the moment, the girls have milk in the morning when they climb into bed and then after tea when they get into their PJs. I had been feeling a bit touched out prior to putting this in place, and was no longer enjoying our nursing relationship as much. This rule has helped me to enjoy nursing again.
I really wanted to be completely child led, but I feel like I need to have some input. While I want it to be child led, I want to end on a positive note which means taking me and my wishes into account. I'm also very keen to have it gentle for both sides. Especially because I feel that any forced and sudden weaning might bring on depression or anxiety for me.
That being said, I would like the morning session to be the next to go. There was a time when I thought it was going naturally, because they were sleeping later which meant a few days where I had to leave for work before they got up. I've also spent a night away from them, but all returned to normal when I came home. I love having them come into the bed in the morning and cuddle, but hate being forced onto my back for them to nurse as the cuddle isn't comfortable for me. Given they are twin toddlers, no other positions work for us anymore.
I think they mainly do this session because it's routine, and the cuddling and skin to skin contact is more comforting than the milk, which I don't even feel anymore in the morning.
How do I transition them out of this session? I'm happy to keep the evening one longer as that's our nicest one, and I feel that when I finally have that last nursing session, it will be in the evening.
I cut out the morning nursing session when my daughter was about the same age, by making sure I was awake and dressed before she woke. She wouldn't ask when I wasn't in bed where she had easy access to na-nas. After a while, she sort of forgot about that morning nursing session and then I was able to back to our normal routine of cuddling in bed in the morning, but without the nursing. She is 3 1/2 now and we still nurse before bed most nights, although recently we've started skipping that more.
I thought about that. Works quite well on days I work, but not days that I sleep in...Did you need to be dressed all the while, or just for a few days to break the habit?
I want to say it was about a week or two that I gave up my sleeping in mornings and just got my butt out of bed before she did. Then on the few occasions that she asked to nurse in the morning, I just told her that we didn't need to nurse, but that if she was hungry/thirsty, we'd go down for breakfast. I also made sure I was at least wearing a tank top to bed for a while so that my boobs weren't quite as accessible in the morning when she did get in bed with me. Once she stopped asking for good, then I felt safe sleeping topless again.
When my daughter was over 3 -- let's see, she was nearly 3.5, I was really done. I was really, really done. So we had a weaning party. I used snapfish to make a book about how she was all done with nanas, including pictures from birth to being 3, emphasizing that she was a big girl now, and all the ways we could comfort her without nursing. I got her a special all done with nanas necklace. We set a date together, and we had a party of our family and read the book together and she got her necklace. It worked REALLY well and was a GREAT way to end the nursing relationship.
that sounds cute, i may try this. mt girl was 3 in october and i am feeling REALLY done. im sad about it, but its time. the latch is so bad now i just cant take it. i know my daughter though, and i will be dealing with tantrums at bed time for at least awhile.
Offer other things to take the place of nourishment and comfort, such as milk and snuggles. That's what I did, though sometimes what I had to offer had to be extra special, such as a chocolate or strawberry milkshake. Also, just breaking the routine helps, as noted above. Good luck! It's so difficult.
I don't have any fantastic advice really, but i just wanted to say i'm pretty much in the same situation with my daughter who just turned 3 in october.
to be honest, nursing is painful for me anymore, her latch has gotten really bad when she is laying down.. and the only time we nurse now is in bed (which i guess is almost the same as the pajama rule :)
2011-12-05 01:02 am (UTC)
I cut out morning nursing by offering juice instead. It wasn't something my son normally got, so that was exciting enough for him to pass up nursing. If they get juice enough that this is not tempting, you might be able to think of some other breakfast treat they'd like as a substitute.