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A weaning-esque question... [Dec. 3rd, 2011|06:04 pm]
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Just to be clear, my nurslings will be 3 in January. I suppose I am weaning them, in that we have a nursing rule: Milk is for jammy time. This means that at the moment, the girls have milk in the morning when they climb into bed and then after tea when they get into their PJs. I had been feeling a bit touched out prior to putting this in place, and was no longer enjoying our nursing relationship as much. This rule has helped me to enjoy nursing again.

I really wanted to be completely child led, but I feel like I need to have some input. While I want it to be child led, I want to end on a positive note which means taking me and my wishes into account. I'm also very keen to have it gentle for both sides. Especially because I feel that any forced and sudden weaning might bring on depression or anxiety for me.

That being said, I would like the morning session to be the next to go. There was a time when I thought it was going naturally, because they were sleeping later which meant a few days where I had to leave for work before they got up. I've also spent a night away from them, but all returned to normal when I came home. I love having them come into the bed in the morning and cuddle, but hate being forced onto my back for them to nurse as the cuddle isn't comfortable for me. Given they are twin toddlers, no other positions work for us anymore.

I think they mainly do this session because it's routine, and the cuddling and skin to skin contact is more comforting than the milk, which I don't even feel anymore in the morning.

How do I transition them out of this session? I'm happy to keep the evening one longer as that's our nicest one, and I feel that when I finally have that last nursing session, it will be in the evening.

[User Picture]From: lolacat
2011-12-03 09:18 pm (UTC)
When my daughter was over 3 -- let's see, she was nearly 3.5, I was really done. I was really, really done. So we had a weaning party. I used snapfish to make a book about how she was all done with nanas, including pictures from birth to being 3, emphasizing that she was a big girl now, and all the ways we could comfort her without nursing. I got her a special all done with nanas necklace. We set a date together, and we had a party of our family and read the book together and she got her necklace. It worked REALLY well and was a GREAT way to end the nursing relationship.
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[User Picture]From: imustconfess
2011-12-04 07:52 am (UTC)
that sounds cute, i may try this. mt girl was 3 in october and i am feeling REALLY done. im sad about it, but its time. the latch is so bad now i just cant take it. i know my daughter though, and i will be dealing with tantrums at bed time for at least awhile.
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